Friday, October 11, 2013
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
Dying to be normal!
To many of us black gay and trans men are dying to be.normal.we feel as if the more men we let beat our shape the more sicken you are. We try very hard to look for men who we think look good but we spend very little to no time trying to firgure out who a person is on the in side. These mind sets are kill our culture. We have to want not to be lonely but to truly find love.
Sunday, September 29, 2013
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
Games of the black gay dating workd
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/real-tees-exposed/2013/09/25/the-game-of-gay-life
My friend and I having a KiKi about the games being played in the black gay culture listen and have fun
Monday, September 23, 2013
Saturday, September 21, 2013
Saturday, September 14, 2013
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
Hating on Me
A lot of queen feel as if the whole world is hating on them when someone Is trying to correct a bad behavior. yes my deal child not everything YOU do is right. Instead of attacking the person for their corrections why not try to look a another's point of view. Never being able to grow because you are unwilling to learn from whoever is the teacher at that current mOment i is not a quilty to be proud of
Thursday, September 5, 2013
Real Tees Exposed: Golden Girls
Golden Girls
At first this image of myself and 2 or 3 other grown ass trannies and punks at the age of 60's living in a house together. Yes it wouldn't be what my idea of growing old, but in the end this wouldn't be that bad! At least I have friends, most gay people especial black gay men we do not have friends. We have people in our lives that judge us and bring us down or even build us up, but many black gay men do not have friendships. We as gay people build these false bubble around us, and we choice because we don't trust people to live in lies.
Living in these lies created the false friendships and false relationship build on lies and falsehoods. We do not trust others so we build walls so people can't trust us! We hide things that we feel people will judges us for instead of just being judged and learning from those judgement. Next to your family real friends should have the right to make judgments and your life and be able to tell you how they feel without the backlash, you would give to a stranger. Also we should be able to confide in true friends without the worried of our secrets being exposed and revived.
Friends, like lovers are special and it is hard to find real friends. So if I grow old and have to live life like the golden girls, maybe it wouldn't be that bad because at least I know I have real friendships.
Tuesday, September 3, 2013
Always Right
As gay black and transgender people we are always in a fight to be right. Sometimes being right is our down fall. We don't want to let people prove us wrong because if we can be wrong on any simple issue we can be wrong on anything. Being wrong shouldn't be looked as weakness but a source of strength!
Being wrong allow us a chances of growth, and to learn from prior mistakes. Weakness comes from a places of always known your right even when your dead wrong.
Sometimes trying to be right is the wrong way to get what you want.
Saturday, August 31, 2013
Wake Up from the fairy tale, lets live in the real world! Black Gay Men
How can you expect someone to be real with you when your so fake with them. Why not be yourself and let the follower come after you why do we as gay people feel the need to re-created life.
We need to learn to be ourself and if people don't like who you are then FUCK THEM! Being yourself can create a since of freedom that trying to live a lie will never create.
Join the conversation at 5 were myself and a panel will dive head first into this issue.
Real Tees Exposed on blogtalkradio.com
Friday, August 30, 2013
Shady ass bitches
Recently there has Been a movement of "keeping it real". At every corner someone is telling you how they feel about you and yours, doing in the spirit of keeping it real.
Well bitch please be shady to me. Unless your my close personal friends or a family member, I do not need to know nor frankly do I care about your opinion about me!
Sometimes people use the keeping it real as a excuse to abuse and hurt. Besides as real as you can be I am the realess, so don't be real with me no t no shade!
Monday, August 26, 2013
Trying to be Nice!!!
So its this show R&B Divas and two of the stats of this show are Chante Moore and Kelly Price. So Kelly came ri the divas with an ideal to do a play together. Kelly be it the ideal was hers was in tour and was busy so Chante hired a director for the play. Kelly was not having any of it and carry on so hard on Chante. I find myself in that situation a lot. I am always trying to fix shit and then get blame d for trying to fix it. I have learn to let people go through it on they own. Stop trying to fix issues even if someone has an issue with me. Either they will get over it or I will.
Sunday, August 25, 2013
Bottom does not equal Female
Doing research on an upcoming radio blog about the Myth of the gay black top I discovered something. Many gay black men did not want to refer to them selfs as bottoms. I though okay and asked why. The answer I got overwhelm me. The answer was " I don't want to people to think of me as a girl. I almost shitted myself I found this to be so funny.
So I pose the question in reverse when did bottom equal woman? There are plenty of couples and one guy is clearly the husband and the other is clearly the wife but you never know what goes down in the bedroom. Just because you like taking it up the ass does not mean you are or even have to be the girl.
So I ask can a bottom be the husband and the top be the wife?
Please tune in to RealTeesExposed. Blogtalkradio.com and hear what had to be said.
Saturday, August 24, 2013
What is the Point
I can see a big trend in porn is the un-safe, safe sex. The bottom sucks the top off without a rubber, the tops fuxk the bottom with a comdon, and then when the top is about to shoot his load he pulls off the rubber and shoots his load in the bottoms mouth.
My question is what is the point of the rubber, if either party had an std it was spread in either the first part of the sexual act or the last part. & it porn shouldn't the actors be tested heavy? If so why use the rubber in the first place.
I personally have known a few people who have caught something and scream "but I used a rubber"
But if you love eating nutt, your not being safe at all.
Friday, August 23, 2013
Brave Heart
So many of my friend are complaining about how lonely they are and why are they still single.
My answer to them is this,......... Make yourself happy. No man, is going to bring happiness into your life. We as gay/trans people sometimes have a lot of family issues. Most of us feel like the black sheep. We all have a fairytale of some dreamy guy who walks into ur life and changes everything. That just is never going to happen. Actually people are going to prey on the weakness of loneliness.
Make yourself happy and, the serious minded people will be attracted to you back.
I am personally taking time away from the stress of dealing with guys and trying to start my own business.
Live your life for you not base on trying to please a man or woman.
Thursday, August 22, 2013
Are TOPS a myth that gay men created!
Is the term "top" just a myth gay men created to make their own gayness less of a personal issue?
The term top by gay design mean a gay man who does the fucking. To make it a little clearer someone who doesn't like a dick in their ass. In today world the term seems to evolve to mean a gay man who don't like dick. But isn't liking dick what make you gay. Is it truly possible to enjoy being with a man and not be attracted to the part of their body which makes them a man?
Lots of gay men see a top who enjoy sucking dick as less of a top or not a real top. Because his mouth was placed on a penis, but the penis never touch his butt. Indeed isn't that what being gay is all about loving a man body parts and wanting to play and please it. Even if a man does like getting fuck sometime how does that distract and take away from his masculinity.
Tonight on RealTeesExposed on blogspotradio, I will be interviewing a south Florida man who says he is a top and never been fucked. Also will be doing an interview from a former top. Top now a days are rare but I'm starting to believe it was always a myth. Masculinity has nothing to do with your sexual preference. I will ask the panel this and a lot more.
Scared of being called Out!
I pride myself for being out. This choice of mine has cause me to become an outcast in my own family. Yet and still I am proud. I thought I hung around other out and proud people but I quickly come to realize this is not the case. I asked a good friend of mines to do an interview with me about being a top in the gay world. When this guy realized what the nature of the interview. Not only did he not want to do the interview but he has yet to return any of my phone calls OE texts.
This led me to think and I have a few questions? First off, what is wrong with being out? Why do you (black gay men) feel the need to place gay men in the closet?
The more of us who are out, the more we will be able to have a voice. Being out isn't something to be ashamed of, indeed it is a fact that should be celebrated.
Queens\ punks\ sissies are some of the bravest among us all. Living life at their own accord, not trying to be something for the public.
I say stand tall and live proud.
Wednesday, August 21, 2013
Makayla
I am Kayla Clarke-Sol. I have created this blog to express my opinions and views on the black GLBT culture.
Over the time I have been blessed to live on this earth, I have been witness to a lot. From time spent in jail to time spent in bookstores all of my life adventures and dramas have lead me on the path to telling the stories of black and Latino men and women.
I pray that the stories, events, people, places, and, things I share can be shared with open minds and hearts. My only goals is to entertain in a way which is both thought provoking and full of mess with a message.